At what point did we arrive at this juncture where a simple compliment to a young woman is met with suspicion, as though she has been wronged or shortchanged?
When did we get to the place where a woman believes she must depend entirely on a man for provision, yet insists on absolute equality when it comes to asserting her opinions?
This is not a message about gender rivalry.
It is a wake-up call to all of us, an appeal to reflect on where we started and how we can retrace our steps before we lose everything meaningful in our human relationships.
I understand that many abhor polygamy, I do too.
But let’s be honest.
Our forefathers and foremothers managed their homes better, not because they practiced polygamy, but because they understood the principles of building and maintaining a family.
Despite the strong advocacy for monogamy, have we truly succeeded in creating stable homes and lasting marriages?
Ironically, in many cases, those who practice polygamy seem to manage family structures better than those who force monogamy without genuine conviction.
I have said it before and I will say it again, men and women should be given the freedom to choose whether monogamy or polygamy aligns with their values and capacity.
When a man is forced into a marriage structure that does not align with his reality or beliefs, it breeds conflict, resentment and, ultimately, the breakdown of the home.
In our attempt to dictate and confine people to rigid expectations, are we not unknowingly creating tension that pits men and women against each other?
When did we start viewing the opposite gender as an enemy?
Who is fueling this silent battle between men and women?
Can’t we see that this war, whether intentional or not, is leading countless innocent men and women into frustration, depression, and even early graves?
It is time to pause and reflect.
The real enemy is not the other gender.
The real battle is against the forces that seek to divide, manipulate, and destroy the natural harmony that should exist between men and women.
Let us move away from unnecessary strife and rediscover the essence of mutual understanding, respect, and cooperation.
Peace